A letter from Tiina
The paddling high schools keep reminding me of WW2 concentration camps or
slave plantations. Most willingly lining up to get abused because they see
no way out. If even some of the students had retained any sense of personal
space and boundaries then there would be mass riots everywhere. I get so
upset reading that stuff because it reminds me of how I too was conditioned
to "take it" and have absolutely no (conscious) sense of violation or
thought of escape. We become like animals in cages - apathetic and neurotic.
Your chapter 12 is very powerful stuff. The only comment that has really
stuck with me and that I need to comment on is in relation to the Stockholm
syndrome and children receiving spankings. The other day I heard a mother
tell her child, "If you do that again I'll kill you!" Now, the younger the
child, the more likely they are to take such comments in a very concrete way
and though they may not believe that this behavior will get them killed,
they do believe that it is a very real possibility if they "push it" too
far. But what is "too far" and when will the threat be carried out? So the
belief of being killed hangs constantly in the child's mind as a very real
Then there are the times especially in the middle of a beating that the
child wishes for a time that they would indeed die - that would be
preferable to the pain and/or humiliation they feel during punishment. Then,
as children do, they worry about the possibility of their wish coming true.
Further, during the punishments themselves, the child might think that the
next whack will indeed kill them.